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In some real sense,
“sustainworthying”
by-definition includes
both
“‘goods’-eclecticising”
and
“‘bads’-inhibiting”.
It also makes ‘real sense’ to
“up-front-clarify” what is to come:
thus
“we need to make our self-therapy ‘eclectic'”
i.e.
utilise, randomly as well as in a regular sequence,
different techniques and micro-techniques
e.g.
during whole-body & skin massaging,
one will be doing a lot of
.1,
Both hands
(a)
initial
(i)
palms-&-fingers “smoothing/stroking”
varying slightly the pressure and speed;
(ii)
at disability and impairment places
one might well ‘interimly-interventionally’ change
slowing-right-down to
a
“gentlest possible finger-tips-led exploration”;
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WHOLISTICLY SELF-EXPLORING/PRACTICING
We choose one Guidance Source at a time
e.g.
Laban’s Effort
“How do my eight basic movement-abilities
‘comparatively/contrastingly’
‘shape-up’ ?”
Pressing (vs) Gliding
Wringing (vs) Floating
Punching (vs) Dabbing
Slashing (vs) Flicking
?
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Pearsall’s Superimmunity
“How do my Four
Hot, Cold, Warm, and Cold
triads of “behaviour”
‘shape-up’ ?”
HOT
Competitive
Impatient
Hostile
WARM
Caring
Patient
Tolerant
COLD
Inadequate
Pessimistic
Defeatist
COOL
Confident
Energic
Optimistic
?
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Bolton’s People Skills
Part One contains
(“) The 12+1 ‘Roadblocks’ to
Good Communication and honest Argumentation(“) :-
JUDGING
Criticising (‘blamingly’ not ‘fairly-critiquely’)
Name-Calling
Diagnosing
Evaluatively Praising/Blaming.
SENDING-SOLUTIONS
Ordering
Threatening
Moralising
Inappropriate ‘probing’
Advising.
AVOIDING OTHERS’ NEEDS & CONCERNS
Diverting
‘Phoney Reasoning’
Reassuring.
THE 13TH ‘ROADBLOCK‘
Saying that some-else is doing the ‘blocking’.
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Part Two
contains
ASSERTION SKILLS
[NB “Assertion” must include
asserting the needs of Others
as well as of one’s-self.
Otherwise it is tantamount to being “aggression”. ]
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Part Three
contains
COLLABORATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING
“The ‘No-Lose’ Method III of
Needs-&-Hows Planning
and
Cooperative Problem Solving”.
[Folllowing the original by Dr Thomas Gordon
in
People/Parents/Teachers/Leaders Effectiveness Training
non-fiction Guidance books ].
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