‘Method III’ & ‘Threes-Tabling’

The Aim of the
” ‘No-Lose’
Needs & Hows Recognising
and
‘Win-Win-Win’ Method III
of
Cooperative Problem Solving”
is to
make a
Common Plan and ‘Backup-Plan’

that will meet the Real
most important & urgent need
of each “affected-person”*.

The published 6-Steps can be ‘shortened’ to 5
by constructing the Back-Up Plan B
immediately following
the Main Plan A being agreed.
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METHOD III
Rules & Guidances
(1)
Nobody comes with any
pre-established ‘advantage’ or ‘expertise’.
(2)
Clockwise each person in turn has equal time
(say 1 minute)
to ‘search-their-own-soul’ ,
state their own ‘real-need’
and how they ‘see’ the common-problem.
(3)
Nobody else interrupts or ‘helps’,
and the ‘scribe’ must write up
each person’s actual-final-words
‘verbatimly’
(4)
The facilitator keeps the timing.
and keeps the flow going around the circle clockwise
until each individual is satisfied with
the written-up Wording
(describing the Situation
and the Needs and Problems thereunder).
(5)
each round must also
collect participants’ notes
as to what non-attendant persons
probably need, also.
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CO-CONDUCTING IT

Step One
Start going around so as to
‘co-construct ‘
and
Write-Up
(on a whiteboard or butchers-papers)
the Overall Situation
within which
your Common Problem –

consisting of your as yet ‘unknown’
individual-needs & ‘problems thereto’ –

sits or ‘lurks’
within that Overall Situation and Problem.
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Step Two
Keep going around

(30 seconds or so each each
of non-transferrable/non-accumulable time)

to ‘think-of’ or ‘imagine’
a “Solution”
which will meet
every-one’s
written-up real.need.

{No interrupting, prompting, ‘helping’,
no ‘piggy-backing or ‘chaining’ –
No “What she said…”
find your own words.
The facilitator must keep the circle going
until each person is satisfied
with what has been [verbatimly] written-up }.
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Step Three
Go around and around genuinely impartially
evaluating each idea from Round Two.
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Step Four
Go around and around
‘choosing’
the ‘most-suitable and likely-to-work’
elements from the Write-Up.
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Step Five
With those ‘elemensts’
‘Cobble-together’
a
Plan A
that will meet
every written-up
need and circumstance

and then also make
a
Plan B “Contingency” for
what to do if anything
“goes wrong” or “gets stuck”.
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This Method III can be found in the original
People/Parents/Teachers/Leaders Training Manual
by Prof Thomas Gordon
but especially in his
Robert Bolton follower’s publication

People Skills
[Part Three]
Part Two is useful, being “Assertion” teaching.
and
Part One prepares us to recognise and ‘obviate’
the
13 Roadblocks
to Good Communication & Honest Arumentation.

JUDGING
Criticising (‘blamingly’);
Name-Calling;
Diagnosing;
Evaluatively ‘Praising’;

SENDING-SOLUTIONS
Ordering:
Threatening;
Moralising;
Inappropriate Probing;
Advising;

AVOIDING OTHERS’ NEEDS
Diverting;
Phoney-‘Reasoning’;
Reassuring.
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The 13th Roadblock
Saying that “some-one else is putting up the roadblocks”.


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THREES-TABLING

is the best way of achieving
both
Good Intercommunication
and
Honest-Reasoning.

{That is why it will be
constitutionally-essential
for our future democracy –
Merit-Capped
&
Sustain-worthying
Deliberative-Democracy

and its more immediately-essential
M-S-D Democratisation-Process.
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ASTERISKED
*
Each affected-person
whether attending the Meeting or not.

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