Co-Sustainworthying Basics

Updated: 1227 St 231119
“… Superimmunity…”
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LIFEPLACE ESSENTIAL ENABLEMENTS
Memorising some
KEYS
will help to newly-habituate us,
and for many will be the necessary accompaniment
to bodily practicing the ‘new-know-how’ :-
.1.
The 12 ‘Unconscious-Roadblocks’ to Good Communication.

JUDGING
(i) Criticising
(ii) Name-Calling
(iii) Diagnosing
(iv) Evaluatively ‘Praising’ or ‘Blaming’.

SENDING SOLUTIONS
(v) Ordering
(vi) Threatening
(vii) Moralising
(viii) Inappropriate Probing
(ix) Advising

AVOIDING NEEDS
(x) Diverting
(xi) Phoney-Reasoning
(x) Reassuring.

THE 13TH ‘ROADBLOCK’
(xiii) Saying someone else is ‘roadblocking’.
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.2.
BEHAVIOUR-‘SETS’

HOT-RUNNING
Impatient
Hostile
Competitive.

COLD-RUNNING
Defeated
Pessimistic
Inadequate.

COOL-RUNNING
Energic
Optimistic
Confident.

WARM-RUNNING
Patient
Tolerant
Caring.
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(*) from People Skills by Robert Bolton.
(**) from Superimmunity by Dr Paul Pearsall.
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