No word can yield up the “real-sense”
of the
“thing-itself” –
no ‘terminology’ can give you
the actual ‘feel’, ‘doing’, and ‘experiencing’
of its “essential-intrinsic-value and ‘capability'”
of that “thing” itself.
People Skills
[for instance] –
is a non-fiction “human-enablements and ‘forewarnings'”
basic-pre-essentials text showing
both
what to actually do
[for “success” to follow-on]
and
very often even more importantly and urgently ‘up-frontly’
what not to do
[for that same “success” to follow-on] :-
———-
In this here-&-now-&-for-ever
“human-self-control and right-behavioural pre-enablement”
context –
as embodied within
our
‘from-this-moment-on’
“Ever-New-Purpose”
of
“Self-&-Civilisation Co-Sustainworthying Movement-Improvement“
and its lists
of neglected non-fiction advances
in
both
natural-lifeplace-enablements
and
civilisational-workplace-skills
Knowledge & Know-How
publications
it is the publications showing us what not to be doing
that we need to pick up first of all.
—
Thus we turn to,
and both ‘memorise’ and begin seriously practising* –
such Lifeplace-Positivisational-Enablements as
the first section in People Skills‘s
“13 Communication Roadblocks to Correct or Avoid” **
[and possibly a few of us may need to further-practice
these and many other life-enablements
“onwards-and-‘upwards'”
into ‘perfecting’
all of them
as major individual-&-teamwork Workplace-Skills. ]
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* practising – by both practicing and actually-doing
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** “Roadblocks”
Group 1
“Judging“
by
Criticising [finding-fault]
Name-Calling [‘Ridiculing’]
(I’d just ‘forgotten’ this 2nd one earlier today)
Diagnosing
Evaluatively ‘Praising’ or ‘Blaming’
Group 2
“Sending-Solutions”
by
Ordering
Threatening
Moralising
Inappropriate Probing
Advising
Group 3
“Avoiding Others’ Needs & Concerns”
by
Diverting
Phoney-‘Reasoning’
Reassuring
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Roadblock #13 Saying it’s someone else who is ‘roadblocking’.
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We find the same initial need –
to deliberately practice some other “wrong” behaviours –
as parts of our “Life-Act”
and to get the essential ‘feel’ of them
e.g.
from Pearsall’s
Superimmunity
take the Hot-versus-Cold Behaviour ‘Triangular’ Models
of
Behavioural-Habits
—
HOT
-running People are
Impatient – Competitive – Hostile
(and generally “go down with a Heart-condition”)
—
COLD
people are
Inadequate – Pessimistic – Defeatist
(and generally “go down with a Cancerous condition”)
———————————
[whereas ‘happy-medium’ behaviours are -]
———————————-
WARM
Caring – Patient – Tolerant
(and are generally “Well” most of the time)
COOL
Confident – Energic – Optimistic
(and are generally “Well” most of the time)
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SUGGESTION ‘WHY-NOT’
Browse through the further cumulative Lists
shown in
http://www.one-human-living.com
http://www.lifefresh.co.uk
and in this site’s previous posts
http://lifefresh.net
for both
“things-to-habitually-be-doing“
and
“things to not be habitually-doing”
O O O O O O O O O O O O O O O O O O O
Break for ‘general maintenance’