e.g. Such checklists as still can appear
under “old” university-taught textbooks
such as Bolton’s People Skills
The “13 roadblocks to Good Communication”
JUDGING
1 Criticising
2 Name-Calling
3 Diagnosing
4 Evaluatively Praising or Blaming
SENDING-‘SOLUTIONS
5 Ordering
6 Threatening
7 Moralising
8 Inappropriate Probing
9 Advising
AVOIDING OTHERS’ NEEDS & CONCERNS
10 Diverting
11 Phoney-Reasoning e.g. “non-sequitur-ing”/”red-herring-ing”
12 Reassuring [“Everything’s already alright”]
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#13 Saying that someone else is blocking the communication.
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OTHER CHECKLISTABLES
From Pearsall’s Superimmunity
UNWELLNESS
[Addiction to “a wrong habit that feels ‘right’]
HOT-HABITUATION
manifests as
Win-Lose Competitiveness;
Impatience;
Hostility.
COLD HABITUATION
Inadequacy;
Pessimism;
Defeat.
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WELLNESS
[“Moderation in all things”]
WARM-HABITUATION
Caring;
Patient;
Tolerant.
COOL-HABITUATION
Confident;
Energic;*
Optimism.
* Noting here that the correct adverbial term descending from “energy”
is not “energetic” but “energic”,
thus further “energicity/energicitous”
and so forth in both connotative and denotative applications,
both formally and informally.
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The “practical” lifeplace-application point here
is
to be able to ‘perform’ any and all of the above behaviours –
as if rehearsing for different parts in a play.