Apart from the traditional expectation that “your word” once given will always be honourable and trustworthy anyway,,
In this “leading first-world democracy”
in the middle of the current Human Race Survival Predicament,,
when in particular might “your word” become most needed
to be trustworthy
fully-proactively-backed – by your personal-self ?
SOME RELEVANT HISTORY
Our “human-condition” has been in the first place seriously-impaired by the ‘exigencies’ of Evolution
“The human baby has to be born approximately three months prematurely
[size of baby’s head ‘dictating’ mother’s pelvic-opening-size – in turn limiting her ability to run to escape predators such as wolves and ‘big-cats’]”.
“The human baby is the only animal on this Earth born not knowing how to move itself to survive”
We have been “spoiled” by the literally prolific and still-onrushing advances in Science & Technology
WITHIN THAT “DOUBLE-IMPAIRMENT”
Let us just for a few moments take the “human-intercommunication” field itself –
with the English Language and the ‘English Establishment’ in broad focus
as well as all 500 million or so English-as-first-language speaking Peoples.
Many modern non-fiction writers say that
(‘) most people are not only poor communicators
but are largely unawarely
yet quite often deliberately
Take the professional work in this area as published in People Skills by Robert Bolton 1979; 2nd ed 1986
Chapter One Skills for Bridging the Interpersonal Gap
Chapter Two Barriers to Communication
[Part Two “Listening Skills” is also vital –
but we had better start with enabling ourselves
to “spot” when we might be putting up a “Barrier” to communication]
Here we also have a need to insert”corrections” or “completions”
of what the author appears to have missed or left unclear:
this I count as a normal necessity with all non-fiction publications, anyway.
THIRTEEN “ROADBLOCKS” TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
Praising or Blaming Evaluatively.
One-Way Inappropriate Questioning/Probing.
AVOIDING OTHERS’ NEEDS or CONCERNS
Telling someone else they are blocking communication.
So one could do the equivalent of writing-out-a-hundred-lines at-home “I will maintain complete two-way-communication”.:-
I will stop myself
Then one could “practice aloud allowed” –
“I will agree the situation and need existing between us befor3e tackling any need or problem …”