This post is ‘founded’ upon Robert Bolton’s People Skills
and contains some of this e-site author-pujblisher’s additional thoughts and ideas
Begin now –
familiarising your-self with
“The Thirteen Barriers to Effective Human Communication“-
“When employed frequently…there is a high-probability that ‘Roadblocks’ will do considerable harm”.
JUDGING
1. Criticising 2. Name-Calling 3. Diagnosing 4. Praising Evaluatively.
SENDING SOLUTIONS
5. Ordering 6. Threatening 7. Moralising 8. Excessive or Inappropriate Probing or Questioning.
AVOIDING THE OTHER’S’ NEEDS and CONCERNS
9. Advising 10. Diverting 11. ‘Logical’-Argument [but including ‘Fallacying; e.g. ‘straw-man-ing’]’ 12. Reassuring..
—————— We [that now is “you” in particular] need to firstly mount our ever-self-watchful-eye on our “needs” and “reasoning” thinking and talking –
because
Governments, Civil-Service branches, NGOs
and school-teachers, even parents and friends –
may be “within their ‘duties’, ‘rights’ and ‘remits'”
unawarely but in some, and even ‘many’ cases, deliberately
using “Roadblocks”
or just a once-only roadblock
[which even alone can be very harmful, suppressive, and ‘one-way-exploitatively-dictatorial’]
————- This post is ‘founded’ upon Robert Bolton’s People Skills
and contains some of this e-site author-pujblisher’s additional thoughts and ideas ————–