If You Have “A Word” How “Trustworthy” Might It Be – especially in the moment it is most needed ?

Apart from the traditional expectation that “your word” once given will always be honourable and trustworthy anyway,,

In this “leading first-world democracy”
in the middle of the current Human Race Survival Predicament,,
when in particular might “your word” become most needed
to be trustworthy
and
fully-proactively-backed – by your personal-self ?
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SOME RELEVANT HISTORY

Our “human-condition” has been in the first place seriously-impaired by the ‘exigencies’ of Evolution
whereby
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Firstly

“The human baby has to be born approximately three months prematurely
[size of baby’s head ‘dictating’ mother’s pelvic-opening-size – in turn limiting her ability to run to escape predators such as wolves and ‘big-cats’]”.
and also
“The human baby is the only animal on this Earth born not knowing how to move itself to survive”

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Secondly 

We have been “spoiled” by the literally prolific and still-onrushing advances in Science & Technology

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WITHIN THAT “DOUBLE-IMPAIRMENT”

Let us just for a few moments take the “human-intercommunication” field itself –
with the English Language and the ‘English Establishment’ in broad focus

as well as all 500 million or so English-as-first-language speaking Peoples.

Many modern non-fiction writers say that
(‘) most people are not only poor communicators
but are largely unawarely
yet quite  often deliberately
blocking
good communication.
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Take the professional work in this area as published in People Skills by Robert Bolton 1979; 2nd ed 1986
Part One
Chapter One   Skills for Bridging the Interpersonal Gap
Chapter Two   Barriers to Communication
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 [Part Two “Listening Skills” is also vital –
but we had better start with enabling ourselves
to “spot” when we might be putting up a “Barrier” to communication]
Here we also have a need to  insert”corrections” or “completions”
of what the author appears to have missed or left unclear: 
this I count as a normal necessity with all non-fiction publications, anyway.

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THIRTEEN “ROADBLOCKS” TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

JUDGING
Criticising.
Name-Calling.
Diagnosing.
Praising or Blaming Evaluatively.
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SENDING-SOLUTIONS
Ordering.
Threatening.
Moralising.
One-Way Inappropriate Questioning/Probing.
Advising,
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AVOIDING OTHERS’ NEEDS or CONCERNS
Diverting.
Falsely-‘Reasoning’.
Reassuring.

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ROADBLOCK #13
Telling someone else they are blocking communication. 

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So one could do the equivalent of writing-out-a-hundred-lines at-home “I will maintain complete two-way-communication”.:-

I will stop myself

Criticising
Name-Calling
Diagnosing …

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Then one could “practice aloud allowed” –

“I will agree the situation and need existing between us befor3e tackling any need or problem …”

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